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Hints for the Hetrosexual woman when first she meets a lesbian

1 Do not run screaming from the room

2 If you must back away, do so slowly and with discretion

3 Do not assume she is attracted to you

4 Do not assume she is not attracted to you

5 Do not assume you are not attracted to her

6 Do not expect her to be as excited at meeting a heterosexual as you may be about meeting a lesbian

7 Do not immediately start talking about your boyfriend or husband in order to make it clear that you are straight. She probably already knows.

8 Do not tell her it is sexist to prefer women, that people are people, and that she should be able to love everybody. Do not tell her that men are as oppressed by sexism as women, and women should help men fight their oppression. These are common fallacies and should be understood as such.

9 Do not invite her someplace where there will be men unless you tell her in advance. She may not want to be with them

10 Do not ask her how she got this way. Instead ask yourself how you got that way

11 Do not assume she is dying to talk about being a lesbian

12 Do not expect her to refrain from talking about being a lesbian

13 Do not trivialize her experience by assuming it is a bedroom issue only. She is a lesbian 24 hours a day

14 Do not assume that because she is a lesbian she wants to be treated like a man

15 Do not assume that her heart will leap with joy if you touch her arm (condescendingly?...flirtatiously?...power-testingly?). It makes her angry

16 If you are tempted to tell her she is taking the easy way out, THINK ABOUT THAT

.17 Other ____________________________

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